Fear of failure or judgement

Fear of failure is an intense fear of failing or being a disappointment to others. A fear of failure can produce emotional and behavioural symptoms. 

Some of the common signs of this fear include:

Anxiety

Avoidance

Feeling a loss of control

Helplessness

Powerlessness

Dizziness, sweating, and digestive problems

This fear is caused by believing that you do not have the skills or knowledge to achieve something, 

Underestimating your own abilities to avoid feeling let down, worrying that imperfections or shortcomings will make other people think less of you and worrying that you will disappoint others if you fail. 

In some cases, the fear of failure may cause students to avoid trying altogether. Because they are so afraid that they will try and not succeed, they simply decide not to try at all in order to prevent potential pain, embarrassment, or disappointment.

Coping with fear of failure 

Consider the outcomes

Sometimes thinking about the worst possible outcome and then coming up with a plan for how you will deal with it can help reduce anxiety when you are pursuing your goals. 

Focus on the things you can control

Instead of worrying about aspects of the situation that you have no power over, focus your energy on things that you can control. 

Plan ahead

When you are facing a challenge that might trigger your fear of failing, work on developing alternative plans just in case your initial efforts do not go as planned. Having a plan B (or plan C) can help you feel less anxious and more secure.

Redefine failure

Changing how you think about failure may also help reduce your feelings of fear. Failure is part of life and can be an important opportunity to learn and acquire new skills.

It can certainly be disappointing, but it is important to maintain a healthy perspective toward the potential benefits of failing from time to time. 

Remember that success is often reached through a series of progressive failures that lead to new information, skills, and strategies.

Use positive thinking

Avoid negative self-talk that can undermine your confidence and create feelings of anxiety. Instead, work on thinking more like an optimist to keep your motivation high.

Dr Manners Msongelwa is an author, teacher and youth coach. He can be contacted on +263771019392