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The sense of renewal, excitement or hope synonymous with a new year sweeps across various areas of our lives, be it career, academics, giftings or any other life aspects — and relationships are no exception.
For couples, this is an opportune time to reflect on their relationship, identify areas that need improvement, and set new goals together.
This week I am inspired to explore the importance of intentional goal setting in relationships, and how couples can plan together, including practical tips for commanding the year ahead with God at the centre.
Last year we explored various topics that resonated deeply with many of you, if the responses are anything to go by; including healing from pain, forgiveness and unforgiveness.
Last week we even talked about letting it go.
As we begin this new chapter, it is essential to acknowledge that relationships require effort, commitment, and a willingness to grow together, even in the face if set backs.
Whether you are married or in a committed partnership, there is always room to rise and do better.
That approach to your relationship can help make this year count.
So, what does pressing the reset button look like for couples in a new year?
For some it might mean:
Setting systems in place, writing your vision, to strengthen your marriage or relationship, aligning your actions with the vision God gave you
Recognising(or identifying) and letting go of past hurts, resentments, or unhealthy patterns
Embracing a new chapter,sometimes filled with uncertainty, but trusting God to guide you.Proverbs 3:5-6 says Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.
Giving more materially or financially if you feel led to do so; or donating to needy causes, letting go of items in your home that are just taking up space, yet you no longer need or use, and letting them be a blessing to someone else.
Making decisions you have been putting off, such as planning a home makeover, healthier habits, spending more quality time together, or prioritising family bonding, or perhaps supporting your spouse in a long standing unaccomplished goal eg academic advancement. You know what I am talking about: that lingering task or goal that is being carried over from year to year, but ending up at the bottom of the pile.
The good news is, a new year has that feel of a blank cheque,where we can write what we want to see happen. Grab that opportunity to turn some things around for the better. As you embark on this new journey together, remember that prayer is a powerful tool to strengthen your bond and in continually tapping into God’s guidance.
As essential as prayer is, equally important is following through with action. Remember, ‘faith without works is dead’. When was the last time you prayed for your spouse,or prayed together? As the saying goes, ‘a couple that prays together stays together’.
There is power in agreement. Matthew 18:19 says: “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven”.
And now for some prayer points:
I picked 7 prayer points, that couples might use interchangeably as guides or to incorporate in prayers for their marriage and its fruits. They can be used as daily or weekly themes to command the year and remain consistent in prayer all year through,not just at the beginning:
Gratitude and praise: We are to enter His gates with thanksgiving and with praise. So thank God for your relationship, the blessings you have received, and the opportunities ahead.Not just a mundane “thank you Lord” when you do not mean it. Think of some of the things you are thankful for about your partner or marriage. Chii chauri thankful for?I hope that you will find a lot of great things.
Unity and understanding: Pray for unity, empathy, and effective communication in your relationship.Kunzwanana can be a challenge sometimes, as life goes. Do not leave it to chance kuti zvichangoita zvega. Stand in prayer for this all too important part of your union.
Forgiveness and healing: Ask God to heal past wounds, forgive each other’s mistakes, and strengthen your bond.Thnere is so much power in acknowledging our wrongs, apologising genuinely and being able to forgive and not keep a record of wrongs.(Remember 1Cor 13 v1-8)
Wisdom and guidance: Seek God’s wisdom in decision-making, planning, and working out life’s challenges together.
Intimacy and connection: Pray for a deeper emotional and physical connection, and for a stronger sense of intimacy.
Protection and provision: Ask God to protect your relationship from external threats, and to provide for your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.
Growth and fruitfulness: Pray for personal growth, spiritual maturity, and a fruitful relationship that honours God and inspires others.
Also share with others, your own prayer points for relationships as there are so many other we could never exhaust.
As you begin this new year, do not lose sight of the fact that relationships require effort, commitment, and a willingness to grow together. By setting intentional goals, praying together, and matching your prayers with action, you can build a stronger, more resilient relationship that honours God.
In 2025, make a conscious effort to involve God more intentionally in your relationship and marriage, prioritising prayer, communication, and mutual support.
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